Comfort Zone: (noun)- A place or situation where one feels safe or at ease without stress.
What is it that makes people brave; makes people thrive; makes people say ‘I won’t stop until it is finished?’ What is it that makes people think ‘This is a great idea!‘?… and what is it that makes people agree??
What is it that makes people stop, think and say ‘No, I’m alright. I’ll just stay here‘? (aka: ‘the possibilities are not endless.’)
Your comfort zone can be a tricky little space, keeping you secure and then sometimes giving you a look through the key hole right before pulling you back in. My comfort zone was in Kentucky, living with my parents (rent free) and working a graveyard part time job. To know how in the heck I ended up in southern Utah visit here and read the small series of blogs.
There will come a time when you have to look in the mirror and realize that possibility is EVERYWHERE, it just depends on how you want to view the world. That doesn’t mean you are naive, it just means that you are not going to let pending circumstances (worldly or locally) stop you from being brave.
Within 6 months of
living in southern Utah leaving Kentucky, I have traveled across the southern half of the United States, moved into an apartment, started a new job, training for a marathon (the race is October 1st), mourned 3 deaths, made a couple new friends, ‘found’ a boyfriend, and thinking about going back to school… oh and I’m a blogger. You talk about a busy 6 months of life!!
What is stopping YOU from getting outside of your comfort zone and how can you defeat that. ‘They say‘ that 80% of people live in their comfort zone. I don’t want anyone to feel like they have to do exactly what I have done to get out of theirs, it could be the biggest change to you and mean the smallest change to someone else! It’s all about perspective!
If you want to go somewhere new- start that savings plan.
If you want to get a new job- update that resume.
If you want to purchase your first home- go to the bank and see what you need to do.
If you want a new car- look up the value for the one that you have now and go from there.
If you want to get out of that relationship- do whatever it will take to find yourself again.
Getting from Point A to Point B is not an easy thing, what is easy is your comfort zone. It’s an easy, stress free, risk free mediocre space. You’ve got to get out there and do something about the things that you want to do! It’s kind of like the first time you ever got on a roller coaster: You wait in line for your turn, sit down, strap yourself in, wait for the ride operators to come check, then all you hear is the clicks of the track as you are making your way to the top! Do you remember what it felt like? Do you remember hearing other voices freaking out? Do you remember how high your pulse was and that you were probably with someone who assured you everything is going to be just fine and that it will be fun and that as soon as you get off you’ll want to get right back in line to do it all over again? I do!
Which comes to my next point, you need support. Listen, I knew that whenever I was thinking about moving I had to be very strategic when approaching my family with it, there were several friends who knew this was boiling in my heart. (My mom, who is always Switzerland between me and my Dad, is who I brought it up to first… and I had to tell my nephews. I had a feeling that I would have to fly home for my Granny’s funeral because she wasn’t in good shape when I left… and I never expected my Papaw or friend to pass away) There were tears, yelling and uncomfortable feelings of abandonment (I thought I was abandoning my family for the longest time.) Eventually they were on board, and now I can’t imagine them not being happy for me 🙂
The first 3 nights that I was at the new apartment by myself I cried until I fell asleep. I constantly thought to myself ‘I hope I don’t have to tuck my tail and go back home’ But, I’m making it work because I want to make it work. Am I so rich that I could afford to move in a moments notice? No, I budgeted. I planned. And I saved. I stayed passionate about what I wanted.
Am I rich now that I have moved? No. I still budget. I still plan. And I still save. I still stay passionate about what I want.
Listen, ‘life’ will always be happening so don’t let it stop you from doing the things that you want to. I could of used the excuse of my granny Brown being in bad shape to not go. I could have used the excuse of money to not go. And honestly, I could have used my then current job as an excuse. But, I didn’t.
Two more things to think about is that 1. not everything is permanent. You can make a temporary commitment, let everyone think you are crazy… but they’ll be wishing they were doing what you are doing instead of doing the same ol’ thing every day. I’m 24, now is the time to step out of the comfort zone and see what I’m made of. And, you know, I’m stronger than I thought! You are too!! You’ll see! 2. Timing isn’t everything, yes I had the courtesy of my new company to plan ahead, but hey, sometimes you have to jump and welcome the unknown! (The lease agreement for the apartment I live in now didn’t even match up to my moving plans, I paid all the deposit fees and 1st months rent before even getting to Utah- but it was worth it!)
What can you do today that will impact you in a great way tomorrow?? I would love to hear any stories of change in your life so leave a reply 💙
Keep up the sass, seriously!